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Barnum Officially Proclaimed Awesome

It’s official. Not only do I think Barnum is awesome, but so do Carin and Trixie at VomitComet and Brooke and Cessna at Ruled by Paws!

Awesome Blog Award

It's official. We're awesome.

[Image description: Square with black edges and a pale gray-striped interior. In the upper left, inside a hot pink rectangle, it says, “This blog has been given a…” Below that, on the regular background, it says, “Awesome Blog Award!” There is a horizontal straight-line ribbon graphic with the words “AWESOME” repeated over and over as form of wallpaper, with a black seal-of-approval on the lower right, inside which it says in hot-pink and white letters, “Nominated for being so damn Awesome.“]

It’s nice to get some recognition from your peers, isn’t it? Especially all the fabulous things that Carin said about After Gadget.

Barnum is already told on an almost hourly basis how wonderful he is by anyone in his presence, so I don’t think he thinks this is anything new. I, on the other hand, have been having a rough time, emotionally, lately, and will take all the ego-boosting I can!

To read who else is awesome and get some inside dirt on Trixie and Cessna, visit VomitComit’s Somebody Else Thinks We’re Awesome post and Ruled by Paws’ Awesome Blog Award post.

To accept this award, we have to reveal seven unknown fascinating tidbits about ourselves, and we have to choose 15 other blogs upon whom to bestow the honor.

I’m going to write the seven revelations about me, because you probably already know almost all there is to know about Barnum!

Sharon’s Secrets, Revealed!

1. I love to dance. Before I became disabled, I learned swing and ballroom, a little bit of modern, and whatever else I could. As a kid I took jazz and tap. I sucked at jazz and didn’t like it. I really liked tap, but none of the other girls did, and I had no self-esteem, so I didn’t pursue it because it wasn’t cool. Sigh. Once I was old enough (actually, thanks to a fake ID, well before I was old enough), I went out clubbing as often as I could. I even did some go-go dancing. After I got sick, I occasionally tried to do some wheelchair dancing for special events. Of all the things I miss about being able to move my body however I want, I miss dancing the most.

2. I was the graduation speaker for my class at my commencement at Tufts University. I won this honor by being awarded the Wendell Phillips Award, which is given to one student every year at both Tufts and Harvard University who display oratory skill and community leadership. The award is named after the abolitionist preacher. The president of the university tried to find a way to prevent me from speaking, because he was afraid of my scary radical militant lesbian ways. [Eye roll.] The irony is that, because he tried to silence me, I revealed his dirty deed in my remarks. I played Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive” on a boom box at the end of the speech and got a standing ovation.

3. I have paradoxical reactions to many medications, including antihistamines and tranquilizers, such as Sudafed or Valium. Instead of making me sleepy, they make me shaky, anxious, sweaty, and wiiiiiiide awake.

4. I used to have a pet snake named Falstaff. She was a garter snake. She liked to curl up in my hair on the top of my head. She ate live goldfish for her meals. I discovered she hunted by smell when she twice bit my thumb after I’d poured the goldfish into her bowl. After that, I always washed my hands after touching the goldfish, and she never bit me again.

5. I am a total Harry Potter fanatic. When I am going through a hard time, I listen to the entire set of CDs over and over. I have most of the books memorized by now. I wish I didn’t feel so compelled to watch the movies, because they have messed up my previously well-established imaginings about exactly what each character looks and sounds like.

6. Some day, when I am well enough, I would like to foster and train hypoallergenic rescues as assistance dogs for other PWDs who have dog allergies and don’t have the fanatacism interest or ability to train their own assistance dogs. Or, even better, I’d like to work with people to train their dogs, themselves.

7. I  have several books in my head or on my computer that I hope to polish and publish eventually. They range from poetry for children, to a compilation of my Sick Humor essays, to an anthology of disability erotica, and more. I have ideas for three dog-related books, too.

I’m supposed to list fifteen other blogs I think are awesome. I’ve decided to include some non-blogs, as well, mostly youtube channels, because 15 is a lot, and I already passed on the One Lovely Blog Award to a bunch of blogs, previously.

I’m focusing my list on blogs and sites that are either new to me (and may have nothing to do with disability, dogs, or training) and/or blogs that are related to the themes of After Gadget. These are in no particular order.

1. Adoption Paradox. This is one of the blogs I stumbled across when dealing recently with “the unpleasantness,” and then I just happened to get sucked into it. Why? It’s extremely well-written and compelling, and if you are new to the issues adoptees face, and the social-justice implications of adoption, it will be an education.

2. Through a Guide’s Eyes. This is a relatively new blog by my long-time friend, Karyn. Karyn was my mentor when I started training Jersey, and over the years, we have both experienced great changes in our disabilities and lives (and have gone through the process of loss and training of successor dogs). Karyn’s posts are impressively frequent and packed with information. Almost everyone can learn something from Karyn’s perspective, as she is in the unique role being a handler/trainer of combo dogs who act as guide, hearing, and service dogs.

3. this ain’t livin’. This is the personal blog of writer s.e. smith (aka Meloukhia), one of the founders of my favorite blog ever, FWD/Forward. Meloukhia posts at least daily, on subjects ranging from pop culture (especially Glee!), class, feminism, book reviews, disability, food, and uh, lots of interesting stuff. It sort of  defies definition. If you don’t want to think, don’t read this blog, cuz you might be forced to think.

4. Remembering Niko. One of the loveliest people I met online due to Gadget’s lymphoma diagnosis is Bettina, who lost her (pet) dog Niko to canine lymphoma. Her site has terrific resources, support, and information on pet loss, including pages on anticipatory grief, what to expect from euthanasia, and common symptoms and signs of grief. I’m still working on my grief support pages, but if you are grieving a dog (or other animal), you will find much you can relate to at Remembering Niko. Reading the story of Bettina and Niko’s life together is also quite remarkable and touching.

5. & 6. BZ Training. This delightful blog is well-written, humorous, and has great photos. Kathleen is another Training Levels fanatic, so she writes a lot about the Levels, but even if you’re not interested in clicker training, golden retrievers, or dog photography, her writing is natural and compelling. She gets two slots, because her clicker videos, username, BZFischer, are outstanding! If you want to learn how to shape a training enthusiast, check out her youtubes. Yes, I am jealous of her. She’s so damn good.

7. & 8. Here’s another woman who’s so talented, she earns two slots. Her awesome blog, Vancouver Island Assistance Dogs has been on my blogroll since the beginning. VIAD teaches people with disabilities to train their own assistance dogs. It is an informational/instructional blog. Even better than the blog are Donna’s videos; find her on youtube as supernaturalbc2008. They are captioned, and some also have voice narration. She breaks things down into easy-to-understand steps and concepts. Some of the best clicker videos ever made are her “9 Habits of Highly Effective Clicker Trainers” series. She covers foundation behaviors, mobility assistance, hearing alert, diabetes alert, and more. (Again, totally jealous.)

9. The Angry Black Woman. This is actually a blog with three contributors (but don’t worry, they all identify as angry, black, and women), but I like ABW’s posts best. The blog’s subtitle is “Race, Politics, Gender, Sexuality, Anger,” and it does contain all of that, as well as a lot on speculative fiction (SF/F), writers/writing, and dealing with People Who Don’t Get It in a refreshingly straightforward, enjoyably angry manner. I came across ABW when I was looking for links I could put up for some commenters here who Didn’t Get It, and I felt all my knotted-up muscles relax when I started reading ABW, especially The BINGO Project and its comments.

10. Marge and her Rhodesian Ridgebacks. Terrific videos of the happiest-looking dogs you’ll ever see. Oh, and thy just happen to be rescues with awful pasts. Oh, and they just happen to be doing fabulous, often funny skills, like “Ridgeback Cleaning Service,” or holding a raw egg in their mouths, or sitting on their person’s head (on cue).

11. Eileen is another clicker trainer who has a lot to teach humans. She’s been very generous with her advice to me and posts here. Helpful, kindly, and humble, she has some great videos (included in my previous blog) on why dogs may fail to understand cues (commands) that you think they should. She also has Levels videos and various other good dog training fun stuff. Her youtube channel is eileenanddogs

12. Writer in a Wheelchair. I just discovered this British blogger thanks to the latest disability blog carnival. Disability rights activism, humor, culture, and general life-about-town as a person with a disability. Good politics, and informative for me about life with disability on the other side of the pond.

13. Ham Blog/Annaham. Annaham is another one of the founders of the blog formerly known as FWD/Forward. At its previous locale, Ham.Blog had the best subtitle, ever: “Ruining feminism, one pain pill at a time.” The new subtitle is “Promoting disability since 2008 or so.” It should be obvious that this blog includes humor, disability, and feminism. There are also various social justice themes, but mostly, lately, she’s doing cartoons, drawings, and other artwork, often related to chronic pain, but not necessarily. Another one that sort of defies description. What can I say? She’s good. I like her.

14. Wheelie catholic. This is a great blog that I often forget to read, and then, when I do, I think, “Yeah! OMG! I’m dealing with just that same thing!” It’s well-written, thoughtful, and real.

15. The Fibrochondriac. Another friend of the blog! (Hi, Kathy!) Kathy was on of the first bloggers I “met” online, and she helped me believe I could do this blogging thing. I’ll be honest, when I first saw the name of her blog, I thought two things: 1. “That’s witty and clever!” 2. “Uh-oh.” I mean, I knew she didn’t discount the reality of fibro or other chronic illnesses, but I didn’t know if her take on fibro would be some sort of falsely peppy, cheerleaderish sort of roses-and-sunshine blog (which seems to be popular among women blogging about chronic illness) that would downplay the realness of her illness. But no, her blog is very real and readable and fun. She’s got backbone! (Which probably aches.)

Whew! It took me a long time to put this together!

-Sharon, the muse of Gadget, and Barnum (SDiT with one actual service skill in place! Will try to video and post eventually!)

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One Lovely Blog Award

I was absolutely delighted to get a note the other day from Nessie, the blogger at Lipstick, Perfume, and Too Many Pills (a sick girl’s quest for normalcy) telling me she’d honored me with the One Lovely Blog Award!

Here it is:

One Lovely Blog Award

Award and Art by Sara Faghani

Thank you, Nessie! Please visit her site and check out what she says about After Gadget and the other blogs she named.

The award was created in December 2008 by Sara [access note: following link automatically plays music] of Works of Art by Sara.

Here are the rules of the award, according to Sara:

1. Add the logo to your blog.
2. Link to the person from whom you received this award.
3. Nominate 7 or more blogs.
4. Leave a message on their blog, letting them know they are “One Lovely Blog”!

This is a terrific opportunity to point you to some fabulous blogs. I was afraid all my faves would already have been honored, but lo! ‘Tis not so! I am thrilled to be able to give back a bit to these blogs that have given me so much. It’s also been a lot of fun to stray from my usual topic of life with (and without) dogs.

Before I give my list, some brief explanation of how I picked. Most awardees say to pick blogs that haven’t already received the award and that are “recent discoveries.” Since I only started reading blogs around the time Gadget died, all blogs are recent discoveries for me!

I’ve noticed that others who give their picks often tend to pass the award on to other blogs with similar themes, e.g., Sara named other art blogs, and the blogs who led to mine were mostly disability or chronic illness blogs.

While I am not intentionally going out of my way to choose blogs different from mine, I decided to resist the internal pressure I felt to pick, for example, other assistance dog blogs or “non-controversial” blogs. I want to honor the blogs that I think are truly unique and well written, regardless of topic. That’s what I mean by “One Lovely Blog.” Not necessarily “lovely,” as in “beautiful” or “sweet” (though a couple of those are represented), but as in “Damn, I LOVE this blog!” These blogs give something special to the blogosphere that I haven’t found anywhere else. As you can see, my tastes are eclectic!

Accessibility of these blogs varies. Some are what I would consider accessible (such as FWD), and some have obvious access flaws, such as not including a detailed description of graphics, and some I’m really not sure how accessible they are. I was going to try to choose only blogs that I’d consider “more accessible,” but I ran into three problems: 1. The meaning of “accessible” varies greatly depending on the reader’s disability. 2. My own grasp of what’s accessible to others is greatly hindered by my relative computer illiteracy, so I’m often not sure how accessible a given blog is to a given person with a disability. I just don’t grok how the software interfaces with the disability. 3. I haven’t come across that many blogs that I love which are also more-than-usually accessible. (A sad commentary.) However, I encourage you to comment if you go to one of these blogs and find it accessible to your particular disabilities, as this would be good info for all of us. Thank you!

Now, here they are, my picks for the One Lovely Blog Award! Please visit them and enrich your blog-reading experience!

1. FWD/Forward (Feminists with Disabilities for a Way Forward)

This is the only blog that I actually subscribe to, which is saying a lot. I always feel overwhelmed by too much email (who doesn’t?), and yet I read this blog — which sometimes contain multiple posts — every day. FWD is the smartest, most diverse, thoughtful, informative, honest, and ethical blog I’ve come across. There are several bloggers at FWD, and they really work their asses off to provide quality material. FWD has made me rethink what language I use and how I’ve set up my blog for accessibility, and taught me much about politics, the internet, and so many other things I can’t even list them. It often gives me a laugh and much-needed affirmation, too. If you have any interest in feminism or disability rights (and other social justice issues), this is the blog for you. And if you are not that interested in feminism or disability rights, then all the more reason to check it out and learn a little something!

2. VirtuaVet (Online Pet Health Consultations, Coaching and Philosophy)

VirtuaVet is Doc Truli, and she is Truli wonderful. She is a small animal vet, but has worked as an ER and livestock vet, and has had more species of pets than I could imagine! The blog is written beautifully, with great explanations — often with accompanying pictures — for the layperson. Yet, Doc Truli never talks down to her readers. There are quirky posts that cover veterinary issues I’ve not seen anywhere else, such as “Snakes Are People, Too!” and “Fat Dachshund” (the latter of which is one of Doc Truli’s occasional rants against the pet food industry, which is awesome). Not only is VirtuaVet fabulously informative, it also deals with ethical issues. One of my favorite posts starts this way: “I believe your decisions regarding your pets’ care are practical, ethical, moral, and spiritual decisions. Therefore, my advice and approach is unique in veterinary medicine. I love animals to an obsessed, crazy degree.  But I do not adore, love, or idolize medicine.” If only more vets (and MDs) felt this way!

3. GenderBitch (musings of a trans chick)

I discovered GenderBitch at questioningtransphobia, where she is a guest blogger. As GB’s name suggests, this is an angry, funny blog that deals with gender. To be more specific, it mostly deals with transgender issues and transgender oppression, with a lot of overlap with other issues, such as ableism, sexism, polyamory, etc. What I love about GB is how completely unapologetic it is. It is also raw, witty, raging, well written, sarcastic, intelligent, hilarious, geeky, and courageous. Two of my all-time favorite posts — ever — were written by Genderbitch, so I’m also including the links to these two posts: “But I Was Just Curious!” The Fail of Invasive Questions and Intent! It’s Fucking Magic! If you have an interest in queer and/or trans stuff, this is a great site to learn more, get worked up, feel shocked and saddened, or practically pee your pants laughing. If you are not familiar with trans issues, you can learn a lot from Genderbitch, including some terminology (e.g., the prefix “cis,” which essentially means “not trans”) which has not yet made it into “mainstream” vocabularies. But if I, with my cognitive impairment, can figure out, for example, what “cissexism” means, you can, too. Soooo worth it.

4. The Other End of the Leash

Author, behaviorist, trainer, and farmer Patricia McConnell writes a visually beautiful; emotionally open, honest, and lovely; and intellectually engaging blog about life on her farm, and particularly, her dogs. She describes her blog as “an ongoing inquiry about the behavior of people and dogs. I would like this to be a forum for people who are both intellectually and emotionally fascinated by the behavior of the animals at both ends of the leash. My hope is that it will become a place for an informed and thoughtful consideration of the amazing relationship between people and dogs.” She reaches her goal, and so much more. The pictures of the flora and fauna on her farm are delightful, and she always has something personal, yet universal (to dog owner/handlers), to discuss. I don’t read it that often, but every time I do, I think, “Wow, this is totally relevant to what Barnum and I are going through! I must come back here more often!”

5. The Canary Report: Sounding the Alarm about Multiple Chemical Sensitivity

Susie Collins’s The Canary Report is a very active blog of multiple contributors, forums, news articles, creative calls to action, and personal stories, all relating to the environment, health, or MCS. Susie always has a welcoming “Aloha!” for all commenters, and her humor, energy, and nonstop ideas keep the blog vibrant and fluid. Activism, advocacy, and education play a central role here, but there is also fellowship and personal connection. I recommend it to other canaries (people with MCS), as well as to people outside our world who want to learn how they can help protect themselves, their families, animals, and the planet from the harms of pollution, be it small-scale (chemicals in personal care products) or large-scale (the BP oil leak crisis in the Gulf).

6. Susie Bright’s Journal

I’ve had a soft spot for Susie since — as a co-founder of, and columnist for, On Our Backs, a groundbreaking women’s sex magazine — she helped me discover my sexuality in the late 1980s. A decade later, I was thrilled to have my fiction published in OOB (under different management) and then by Susie, herself, in two anthologies. But none of this is why I’m listing her blog here! Quite simply, Susie’s blog is terrific reading! The writing is crisp, clear, and well-researched. She is funny and thought-provoking. You can learn anything about sex and how it intersects with politics, culture, art, history, and more, fascinatingly and articulately spelled out by Susie Bright. She is most to blame for me spending way too many hours lost in obscure lesbian film history or her own tales of wild adventures with famous folks, simply because I clicked on one of her tweets.

7. Lymenaide (living in harmony with Lyme)

Ashley van Tol’s blog about living with Lyme and other tick-borne diseases is the most comprehensive personal Lyme site I’ve found. She has it all — musings on life with Lyme, recipes for those on restricted diets, a store to raise funds for Lyme awareness, calls to action, legislative news, and more. Where Ashley really shines and has made a name for herself in the Lyme community is her activism to raise awareness about Lyme prevention and treatment, and the need to treat Lymies with respect and understanding. She was the force behind four professional TV public service announcements (featuring well-known actors) for Lyme Awareness Month. Ashley manages to write a blog that is celebratory and joyful without distorting the realities of living with Lyme. It’s a site anyone can appreciate, whether they have Lyme or not.

8. Brilliant Mind Broken Body (living with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome)

Last, but certainly not least, a blog from a fellow assistance-dog partner! Kali writes clear, fluid prose, designed to be understood by both those with disabilities and those who want to know a bit more about what it’s like to live with disability, and specifically, her disability of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. (On a personal note, I was surprised and pleased to find BMBB because I had a friend with EDS, and nobody had ever heard of it.) Kali’s posts range from “a typical day in the life of a service dog partner” (my favorite post of hers to date); to social justice issues — such as how -isms like fat oppression, ableism, and sexism interconnect; to silly stories about her quirky SD, Hudson. BMBB is also hosting the next Disability Blog Carnival — keep an eye out!

Please visit these worthy blogs, and give them some love.

As always, your comments are more than welcome.

Peace,

Sharon, Barnum (taking a break from being a blog topic this week), and the Muse of Gadget (missed more sharply in these summer months)


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